Building and maintaining a good sex life with your partner requires both of you to put in time and effort. These are the ingredients that can help you keep your intimate relationship satisfying:
1. Communicate more with your spouse.
In addition to talking about sex and sharing your sexual fantasies, you and your husband or wife should talk more in general. Improving your communication by speaking with one another more frequently will make you feel closer to each other. That will make you more intimate and probably less inhibited in the bedroom—or wherever you prefer to make love. Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital relationship, so talk with one another more Chatting about superficial things can be fun, but remember to go deeper in order to really establish intimacy. Share your innermost thoughts and feelings with one another regularly. Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery .True intimacy through communication is one of the things that can make sex great.
2 . Initiate More Often.
Don’t expect your spouse to be the only one in your marriage who is responsible for romance. You both need to take responsibility for having an intimate and successful relationship.
Hold hands and show affection often. Women particularly need to feel loved and connected in order to have the desire for sex. Make time for date nights and other novel activities together and be open to trying new things!
3 . Spend time on foreplay.
Sex should be something to which you look forward. Foreplay is what gets you excited and anticipating the main event. It doesn’t have to be limited to the 15 minutes before you’d like to have sex. Foreplay often ends with both partners performing oral sex on one another. It can be quite pleasurable and can really put people, especially women, in the mood for sex. When going down on a woman, men can try slow, soft movements with their tongue. Women, while performing fellatio on a man, should, of course, keep their teeth away from the man’s penis and use their lips and tongue instead. Both men and women who are performing oral sex should use their hands to enhance the experience. Let your partner lead you with directions, so you know what he or she prefers.
4. Trying new sex positions.
This might seem like an obvious tip, but you’d be surprised by the number of married people who get stuck in a rut by performing the same combination of positions over and over again. There is more to sex than missionary and cowgirl. You might try reverse cowgirl or doggy style. The point is to try a new sexual position and to see if you and your husband or wife enjoys it.
5. Climax the same time.
Reaching orgasm at the same time is easier said than done. But if the woman can orgasm (it’s usually more difficult for her) and she gives her husband fair warning that it’s about to happen, he might be able to reach orgasm with her. This intensifies the moment and truly has the two of you feeling like one. In the end, you’ll probably collapse into each other’s arms from exhaustion and have the best sleep ever.
6. Use lubricant and toys to enhance the experience.
There’s nothing wrong with bringing a vibrator to bed with you or Jelly lubricant to make sure sex isn’t painful or is simply more stimulating. Some couples enjoy browsing at sex shops together to find items that would improve their sex life. With your husband or wife you shouldn’t feel embarrassed. But you should discuss what kinds of things would appeal to both of you and neither of you should feel forced to participate if you’re not comfortable.