Now, what comes to your mind when you hear? ‘God! Carrier! Marriage!’
In short; it is the sequential order before marriage, one cannot skip one or rearrange the format. It should be accordingly; God-carrier-Marriage. Below Is a true-life story, a case we are currently working on that explains the title above…
Good day, my name is Rosalyn. From Benue state I need help so I don’t take my life. Because that seem to be the only option now. I got married in court at the age of 19 because I was pregnant and because I didn’t want to bring shame to my parents, I got married and it has been the worst decision I ever made. I have never had peace. I have been abused emotional, physically and psychologically. I have no say in my marriage and at one time I couldn’t visit my parents, even when I was pregnant for my two kids, he treated me like I was nothing. I did C.S and he threatened me to tell the doctor to discharge me because he didn’t want to waste money, I ended up having infection on my incision area (a flesh-eating disease) it nearly killed me. He refused to put me in school as promised nor pay for me to learn a skill. I was being punished for everything, it was like I was walking in eggshells. he locked me outside till 3am with my newborn baby inside the room crying for hours because I asked him why he came home by 12am. He goes out to drink, club, cheats with many women.
One day, I asked him a question and he beat me up in front of his mother, then it happened again and again. I ran to my parents’ house but I was told to go back because divorce is not good and that he’ll change, but he never changed, at times he won’t talk to me for weeks nor buy food or eat the food I cook, he’ll insult me and call me and my family names. I keep baring everything until last year august when I found out he was sleeping with my kid sis who’s 16. She told me that they’ve been having sex three times a week for 2 years, she got pregnant and they aborted if. I was devastated, shocked, in pain. I wanted to run away with my kids but I had nowhere to go to, I had no money, no skill, no degree. So, I stayed bearing it all. He still hasn’t changed. He uses it to rub on my face instead. I have developed a terrible high blood pressure at the age of 26. He keeps tormenting me and beating me up. Threatening me with a knife, I ran away to Lagos for some weeks. Came back and this morning, he starts beating me for no reason… I need to leave this marriage. I need to get my life back. I need help.
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