Infertility is the inability to conceive after years of regular sexual intercourse. My darlyns, the desperation of childbirth in marriages ruins a lot of homes. Most times the pressure comes from the extended family which if not managed well could lead to depression, bitterness, tension and stress. Now, the couples because of their inability to give birth become so stressed. Therefore, out of desperation they turn sex into a chore. Rather than having sex because of the pleasure, they have sex basically with all their focus on their infertility and with the constant hope that the sex would lead the woman to conceiving.
In a society where childbirth has been stereotyped as perhaps the only profit that could be benefited from marriages, a woman who cannot conceive would feel chunks of her self esteem drop. However, sex to the couples would stop being for pleasure. The wife would continuously calculate her chart, waiting for her ovulation period so she calls the husband for another round of pregnancy trial sex.
My darlyns, when anxiety becomes your best friend despite how often you have sex it would always be boring as you might be too preoccupied to think about foreplay. As a result of the pressure of conception the couple might have even reduced their communication, which is the backbone of a relationship and might have started withdrawing from each other and the kind of sex they choose to have is not always with the thought of bonding; but rather with the thought of just following the doctor’s prescription which my darlyn, is so sad.
My darlyns, you want to conceive? Take anxiety completely out of your marriage. I know it isn’t an easy thing but believe me it is the best thing you can do for your marriage.
Let me give you a true life story you know I like to tell living stories for you my darlyns, out there to learn. And you know the good thing here: it’s about me.
I waited for a child for 7years!