Cheating is painful and totally unacceptable. The truth is that everyone knows this including the cheat. Of course the first thing that comes to your mind after you’ve been cheated on is rage. How could they have betrayed you? You give them all of you and they turn it into a knife and stab you with it? At that moment, the only thing that came to Marian’s mind was how she could just hurt him back. She said,
“you know, I cried for so long after I found out. I cried to the point where I started feeling like a fool. He shouldn’t have that right over me and the next thing that came to my mind was how to make him pay… basically how to make him feel the heat of the iron he has burnt me with. At first, I thought of going after the bitch that stole my man; I could stab her myself or pour acid over her or even send thugs to her. But the calm in me told me that I still deserved my life and I shouldn’t let Richard (her husband) take it from me. So I calmed down, tried to pray but the prayers just weren’t coming. I decided to go out, get a drink because the house was unbearably hot and everything in the house reminded me of our marriage. Trust me, I’m a pretty girl so when I walked in, I definitely had a few guys turn and I savored the moment. Richard was a fool to have cheated on me and I would prove it to him that others would definitely find me attractive if he doesn’t.”
This story is extremely familiar to what people feel after they have been cheated on. They just feel their spouse isn’t into them anymore and some people try to find someone that would appreciate them the way their spouse hasn’t. Of course, there have been cases where the people take action out of the rage and end up inflicting pain on the concubine which becomes issues for even them because they are still not satisfied.
However, my darlyns if your spouse should cheat on you, in the long run, there are two major options: to fight for your marriage or to walk away. Either ways, you need to remove anything that has to do with revenge from your mind. If you think you will leave the marriage and so revenge will not do you any harm, psychologically, you may hurt yourself and if you don’t, you might do something very irrational that would put you behind bars. Meanwhile, if you know you will stay in the marriage, it is better to avoid any thoughts of revenge at all. Decide truly that you want to make your relationship/marriage work and find ways to make it happen.
My darlyns revenge is never an option because it would only make things worse.