Unforgiveness is Destructive

Unforgiveness is Destructive

Holding on to hurts would deprive you of what you really deserve. My darlyns, unforgiveness in marriage is a DANGER sign which could hinder the love and affection you have towards your spouse. It would sap your energy and make you lose touch of important issues in life. My darlyns, lack of forgiveness is demonic and a destroyer of happiness in your marriage relationship. Forgiveness in marriage is very important it helps to strengthen and foster growth in the union. Believe me my darlyns its impossible not to hurt yourselves. My darlyns the ability to forgive and totally let go is the key to sustaining your marriage. Some issues in marriage might be very difficult to forgive such as the issue of infidelity, abuse etc but it still demands forgiveness even if you still have to move on with life. Unforgiveness in your marriage can lead to hate and hurt. Forgiveness needs time, you may probably need some time to yourself just to resolve issue, let go of your pride in this case and learn to forgive.
Tips on how to forgive your partner

  1. Do not seek revenge after forgiving your spouse.
  2. Give yourself time to heal, think through it and let it go.
  3. Let go of whatever hurts you might have conceived in your mind.
  4. After forgiveness, remind your spouse of not repeating the same issue again.
  5. Forgive and forget the hurt you feel.

Tips on how to plead for forgiveness

  1. Be remorseful enough towards your spouse. Make them understand that your action isn’t intentional.
  2. Make a commitment never to hurt the feelings of your spouse.
  3. Be patient with your spouse, by giving room for them to heal within.
  4. My darlyns, please be ready to make amends.
  5. Let your apology be expressed verbally, physically emotionally and my darlyns, most importantly, sexually; make up sex.


  1. Nikky 2 years ago

    Hmm, you think it’s that easy? Will you be able to forgive a man who you discovered to slept with your mother, only sister and your maid?

    • Author
      wittysally 2 years ago

      My darlyn… Uhmm, well like you said, a man and not a husband.

    • Nathan Dike 2 years ago

      Hmm, this is a serious case

  2. Olabodu Bosede 2 years ago

    I just wish is that easy to forgive…especially when you re getting hurt everytime by a cheating spouse.

  3. Folashade 2 years ago

    We need to take a closer look to things like this. It is causing serious havoc in our society!

    • Author
      wittysally 2 years ago

      Yes my darlyn, the whole idea of this article is about sensitizing people about the dangers of unforgiveness

  4. Lola 2 years ago

    I know it’s important to forgive, it’s just not easy.

    • Olasunkanmi Atolagbe 2 years ago

      That’s y it takes time. But u must consciously start d step and God will c u tru. bcos d hurt from unforgiveness is dangerous to general health

  5. blessing 2 years ago

    Sometimes you need to let go to allo w peace reign.

  6. blessing 2 years ago

    Forgive to allow peace reign.

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